How to prepare for your first intercourse: First-Time Sex Guide

With pornography and erotica being more easily accessible than at any time in history, thanks to the Internet, it’s no wonder that both males and females who haven’t yet had sex may be getting an unrealistic idea of what sex will be like for their first time. For this and many other reasons, it’s important to make sure you’re fully prepared for your first time. Here are some aspects that are important to consider.

Relationships

One critical aspect of first time sex is the relationship you have with your partner. You want to make sure you are both ready. In the event that you have spontaneous sex, it can be devastating, as you’ll likely be unprepared both physically and emotionally, and you might even be putting your health and future at risk if you have unprotected sex. You should make sure to consider the relationship you have with your partner and whether you’re both truly ready to take the next step. Ask anyone who’s older and you’ll likely find that they confirm that sex is better with someone you love, or at least with someone you truly care about. It’s important not to get pressured into having sex for the first time unless you are totally comfortable with it.

In addition, make sure to confide in someone you trust, whether a friend or family member about your plans. They might be able to offer advice or guidance which will make your experience more fulfilling.

You’ll also want to be sure you talk with your partner and communicate with them to prepare for the event. Talk about anything that makes you apprehensive. Communicate with each other about what you expect from each other. You can even talk about what you want and what gives you the most pleasure. Open and honest communication with your partner will be the key to both parties enjoyment.

Making It Special

Once you and your partner have decided to have sex, then it’s time to make some preparations. Your first time will only happen once, so you’ll want to consider making it as special as possible. Make plans for where you’ll have sex and make sure the bedding is clean and comfortable. Consider getting some nice sheets, like high thread count sheets or silk sheets. You might spread some rose petals on the bed or prepare a hot bath or shower. You might also plan out the music you’ll have on in the background. Candles are quite romantic and can bring just the right amount of light into a darkened room to make it conducive to sex. Another aspect to consider is making sure you have chosen a place where you won’t be interrupted and will be alone for the night. Few things can spoil the mood like the voice of a family member.

For first timers, foreplay is something you can use to extend the experience and make it extra special. You might even go online and read about things you can do to enhance foreplay. It certainly wouldn’t hurt to get some advice from professionals. There are many sex advice websites you can visit that allow you to ask sex therapists and doctors about any sexual questions you might have.

What to Expect

You’ll want to make sure you prepare yourself for what to expect upon first time penetration. Some girls and women will still have their hymen intact, which is a membrane which is found outside of the vaginal opening. First time penetration can cause the hymen to break and that may cause pain or even bleeding. In addition, pain can be caused due to lack of vaginal lubrication or from the penis being inserted. It’s a good idea to have some lubricant on hand in case this happens. A man may also have issues. He might experience trouble getting or keeping an erection or he might ejaculate prematurely. A woman might also have trouble reaching orgasm during her first time. For many women, it’s difficult to reach orgasm with only vaginal penetration and thrusting. Make sure to learn about clitoral stimulation, which plays a critical role for women’s orgasms. This is also where foreplay may help.

Protection

Likely the most important part of your first time will be making sure that you take all the precautions needed. For men, make sure to buy some condoms. Condoms are the most convenient and easy to use method of protection from both pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. They are probably the best choice of protection for couple’s having sex for the first time. Make sure to buy a few types of condoms and try them on first. Practice putting condoms on properly; make sure to read the instructions on the packaging. Find out which condom fits best and also feels the most comfortable on you. There are many types of condoms out there, including condoms with different colors and flavors. There are even condoms that have extra ingredients which provide an additional cooling or warming effect, or climax delay lubricant. For vegans and eco-conscious people, you’ll be glad to know there are also condoms which are certified as vegan and eco-friendly.

Relax

Most of all, when having sex for the first time, just relax and have fun. Don’t worry about performing or making the experience extraordinary, as the psychological pressure could affect your performance. If you relax and enjoy the intimacy with the other person, you’re sure to have a good time. Also, don’t think about what sex is like in movies, soap operas or in romance novels, as these situations are almost completely unrealistic and may give you expectations which can’t be met by anyone. If your girlfriend is expecting to recreate the love scenes from The Notebook, then she might be disappointed. The same goes for men. Don’t expect your partner to act like a porn star in porn movies you might have seen. Be realistic about your expectations and you won’t be disappointed.

Remember that most people’s first times aren’t that great. However, like with many other important things in life, you’ll get better with more experience.